We can fool ourselves into thinking that we have our lives well planned out. It was that way for me, being a product of the 1950/60’s: I’d go to college, meet my prince, get married, have children and live happily ever after. As much as I thought I knew what to expect, my life was riddled with surprises. But the last was the most unexpected, compelling me to write Fifth Child, a non-fiction book about the anguish and consequences of a drug-addicted child, which resulted in parenting her child almost since birth.

My husband and I are cast into a shockingly large demographic. Grandparents raising grandchildren is a growing phenomenon in our country because of our shifting economy, unmarried teen mothers, alcohol abuse and illegal drug use. Close to 10 million grandparents comprise the club. We had already raised four children. Jaime was our third child, and Brady is her son, who began calling us Mommy and Daddy when he was three. Readers may be amazed to find calamity overcoming a so seemingly traditional family. But as events and family history unfold, disturbing pitfalls and unfortunate genetic vulnerability reveal fault lines that can sabotage people from any walk of life.

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Saturday, June 7, 2014

Heartfelt Thanks. This Review Gave Me Chills and Tears...

5.0 out of 5 stars "God made a good decision."June 7, 2014
Parents don't plan on their children becoming meth addicts. They don't plan on burying their children and parents don't plan on raising their children's children. Lynne and her husband Stu have experienced the intense heartache and ultimately, the satisfaction of such life experiences.

"God made a good decision." The true story of a mother's love for her family, her sacrifice and selfless journey into parenting--again.

Lynne sets the stage for telling her personal journey as she recounts her all-American childhood experiences, whirlwind romance and her anticipation of a traditional Baby-Boomer family life.

She then, draws the reader into the midst of her ever-darkening world as addiction insidiously creeps into her family and seizes control.

For those who may be experiencing similar circumstances, this book helps to assure the reader that they are not alone. It also provides some very important truths and helpful resources regarding co-dependency, dealing with an addicted child and the ever-increasing situation of grandparents raising grandkids.

Throughout the book Lynne intersperses short and wise snippets from her grandson Brady, who proves to be wise beyond his years. One "gem" happens after Lynne attempts to join other parents in a martial arts class to complete a strenuous workout. Brady hugs Lynne and cupps his hands around her beet-red face and states, "It's not what you do, it's what you try to do."

Lynne sums up her arduous but fulfilling journey at the end of the book by leaving us with one last heartfelt statement from her grandson Brady (as he questions Lynne as to her role in his life).

"So," he said with his hands on his hips, "what are you, my stepmother or what?"
Obviously, his friends must have been throwing terms out at him trying to figure out who I was.
Now it's time for some straight shooting. Maybe he'll get it this time around.
"No, Brady, stepmothers aren't related to their children; and you have my blood running through your veins."
He looked confused.
"Brady, I'm your grandmother; and because I take care of you, I'm also your mom--you have two in one!"
He got a very serious look on his face.
"So, let me get this straight," he self-assuredly re-capped. "In real life, if Jaime were still my mom, you'd be my grandmother. But because she took drugs and couldn't do it, you're my mom?"
"Yes," I replied.
Brady stood there, very pensive. Then a smile of recognition came on his face.
"God made a good decision . . . He thought you'd be good parents for me. Jaime couldn't be good at it because she used drugs, so he gave me to you."

I enthusiastically recommend reading this book for anyone touched by addiction. It is full of redemptive hope and encouragement.

~Judy Herzanek/Changing Lives Foundation
Co-author of:
Book:Why Don't They Just Quit? (2010 Edition, Revised and Updated)
DVD: Why Don't They Just Quit METH? Families need help too. DVD Roundtable Discussion (2 Disc Set)

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